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Dealing with Fighting Friends

What do I do if my friends are fighting and they want me to choose sides? In last week’s article we dealt with balancing responsibilities including friends and drama, however this week we will deal with how to deal with drama between friends. We hope that these suggestions will help you with your decision.

xoxo,

Chip and Dale

Chip Says:
A lot of times friends will have problems with each other and they will try and get a mutual friend to side with them. So what do you do if you are that friend who is stuck in the middle of their fight? You can always choose sides but that can often be a sure fire way to loose the friend you don’t side with. If you really want the whole thing to blow over and come out with all the friends you had at the beginning, the best thing you can do is stay neutral.

When your friends come to you and complain about the one they are in a fight with, listen, but don’t talk badly about the person with them. Once they are done tell them you understand where they are coming from, but also let them know that you don’t want to get in the middle of it. Don’t try and mediate the situation because chances are someone will feel like you are siding with the other. If they insist on you siding with them, don’t let them get to you, instead, find another friend who isn’t involved in the fight and stay with them until the fight ends.

I can almost promise you that you will get in a situation like this at least once in your life. It has happened to me once already in my life and I am sure that it will happen more times throughout the rest of my life. In my situation, my friends were mad at each other and spreading rumors about one another, which made them even more upset with one another. They would constantly talk to me about it and try to get me to talk badly about my other friend with them. I am so glad that I didn’t give in to either one of them. The fight eventually blew over and in the end I still had both of my friends.

Your friends might seem mad at you at the time for not siding with them but they will eventually realize that you weren’t trying to hurt anyone, including yourself. At the end of the day, remember, they can’t get mad at you for not wanting to get involved.

Sincerely,

Chip =]

Dale Says:
When your friends are fighting, I realize it can be stressful to decide which side of the fight you should support or if you should support anyone at all. No matter what you do, the outcome won’t be very beneficial to you. When you choose a side, one of your friends will be hurt even though I’m sure you wouldn’t want to hurt any of them. But if you don’t choose at all, both of your friends will look at the situation as you betraying them. Now you may look at this as you’d rather choose a side and just hurt one of them, but when you don’t get involved the outcome will be better in the end. Your friends will hopefully see that you just didn’t want to choose because you didn’t want to be involved and you didn’t want anyone to get hurt in the process.

When you are in a situation like this, I would try to follow these pointers:

  • try to think rationally about the situation
  • decide what would be right or the best decision for everyone in the long run
  • if possible, don’t choose sides

I think it’s safe for me to say that if you haven’t already been in this situation, you will at least a few times during your life time. When you are posed with this situation you have to be strong. I’m going to be completely honest with all of you reading this: your friends may seem like they hate you for a while after you make your decision. Remember, your friends do not hate you, but they will think that you are wrong if you don’t agree with them. Just don’t forget to say to yourself that excluding yourself from the fight is the best thing to do. Your friends will appreciate your decision eventually.

Stay strong in all your decisions.

With love,

Dale <3<3<3<3<3

  1. Rachel Said,

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  2. peanut butter Said,

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