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When I Fight with My Parents…

My parents and I fight a lot, and I always end up grounded or punished by other means. What can I do about it? Well last week we talked about fighting with friends and how to deal with it, but this week we will discuss how to deal with fighting with your parents.

Chip says:
A lot of times teens and parents fight with each other and that is often because they don’t have the same point of view. If you are a teen you might think that your parents don’t listen to you and don’t allow you to be independent or have freedom. On the other hand, parents want to protect their kids and make sure they are safe by keeping them under a watchful eye. It is important for both parents and teens to see where the other is coming from.
There are many things that we as teens can do to try and avoid fighting with parents and at the same time gain their respect and trust. Try to do things that you know your parents will appreciate so that it will make them less frustrated with you. However if the problems between you and your parents are really bothering you, sit down and talk with them about it. If you avoid the problems, chances are they will only get worse. If you end up arguing with your parents during the conversation because you get really upset, remember to try stay calm and don’t get caught up in the moment because you might end up saying something you don’t mean. I have fought with my parents many times in my life and sometimes I end up saying things that I don’t mean just because I am mad at them and want them to feel upset and hurt the same way that I do. However, once I have said these hurtful things I feel bad about it and even though I know that I didn’t mean them, my parents don’t. Plus, I get in more trouble than I already would have been in.

You can never be sure of when you will fight with your parents or why, but you can be sure of how you handle yourself in these arguments. When you act mature by not getting upset and not letting your emotions get the better of you things get resolved and you will be happier. Plus, when you get upset and storm out nothing really gets resolved and if the problem is really bothering you, not dealing with it might even make you more upset. Make sure that you deal with any important problems and resolve them, but also do your part to avoid fights with your parents by trying to help them, and by acting respectful.

Dale says:

Sometimes,you have to know when to speak your mind and when to control your mouth. When having a disagreement with your parents, that would be a time to watch what you say. Whether your parents are right or wrong, you will be punished (most likely) for disrespecting them. Often times the best way to go is to just listen to what they say and express your frustration in other ways. Yelling and screaming will get you nowhere except grounded. And I think I can safely say that nobody out there wants that to happen.

A lot of you guys out there probably have old-fashioned parents(or pretty close to it). When you have parents like this or come across adults who have these mannerisms, there isn’t much you can do about speaking your mind around them, especially when you’re frustrated or angry. Any of you who don’t know what I mean by “old-fashioned,” it’s just those parents or adults who haven’t realized that this is a new day and age and kids are like they used to be. Dealing with these adults can be difficult I know. My coach is like that, and I know it can be very difficult to persuade him in my favor when I find an idea that can benefit the team better.

In general, you have to know how to hinder your words with the adults who still have the theory “children should be seen and not heard.” This is an old way of life that has greatly changed in the last 20 to 30 years or so. I’m not saying that these adults are wrong, they should just recognize the fact that times are changing and people have to change with them. There isn’t much you can do if the people don’t want to accept the change that’s coming with the newly changing times.

If all else fails, turn to meditation or God to help you. When you’re mad, you might say thing that won’t end up well for you. So the best thing to do is to remove yourself from the situation and find a way to calm yourself before attempting to deal with the problem at hand.

With love,

Dale <3<3<3

  1. Maggie Peterson Said,

    This advice is great! It’s very helpful and helps me understand why my parents do certain things. Thanks Chip and Dale!

  2. Maddie Weaver Said,

    Great advice! Thanks

  3. Alexandra Said,

    Good advice! But don’t get too caught up with meditation, too much can be dangerous, esppecially if you do it the wrong way. Maybe Chip and Dale could give us some tips on how to carefully meditate?
    🙂

  4. ChipandDale Said,

    thanks for all the comments everyone. We really appreciate it.

    Give us plenty of feedback, and if there’s anything you want to see on the site (concerning the advice column) let us know. Chip and I would be more than happy to help.

  5. adam Said,

    ummm…i think u guys should add more humor in it its kinda dry crackers…

  6. dale Said,

    well adam, it’s kind of hard to add humor to situations that, in all reality, are really serious. I try as much as I can but it gets kind of difficult you know.

    Anyways, thankx for comments anyway,

    Dale

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