Last week we dealt with jealousy, and how to handle it. This week we’re going to discuss something a little bit more emotionally complicated.
How do you deal with people who pretend to be your friend? This is something very challenging, and we’re going to give you some tips on how to handle it with the best outcome.
Finding true and loyal friends can be really hard. How can you know if someone is really your friend? And even if they are how do you know if they are “true”, good, and loyal friends? Well, you can never be a 100% sure if someone isn’t pretending to be your friend but there are some things you can do.
Don’t pick you friends based on popularity. Instead, choose friends that you get along with and have fun with. Once you have found those good friends you will be happy. Once you are happy with your life you won’t want to be in with the “popular people” because you won’t feel like you need them to become happy.
However, if you still feel like you want to be popular what do you do? If you have fun with your friends you probably won’t feel the need to be “popular”, but, if you do it can be hard to do without loosing you friends. My advice is not to leave your friends to become popular because you could end up loosing them forever and be alone if you don’t make new ones. Making good friends can be hard but all you can do is find friends who make you happy. Once you do that everything will fall into place.
This is a really hard situation to deal with. Everyone deals with this kind of stress in different ways. I think at some time everyone has doubts about their friendships, but trust and truthfulness are major link to solve the problem. If you gain friends for a superficial reason, chances are that they only want to be your friend to gain something from you. This kind of thing happens a lot especially in a high school or upper middle school setting. A lot of people find that popularity is the most important thing you can gain at school, and that’s how some kids get hurt; they gain artificial friends. This kind of problem can also occur when you have a friend or family member who is very popular, and other people want t0o get close to that person. If you’re close to that person, you could get hurt because people will most likely use you to get to that person.
There isn’t much you can do about people who pretend to be your friend, but you can watch out for yourself in situations where this problem could arise. Even though you would want to keep yourself from getting hurt, you don’t have to be really extreme about it. All that you need to do is learn to read a person’s personality fairly well and you can pretty much avoid getting hurt.